Top Romantic Books

Mystery and romance collide to create compelling books that are also nicely lighthearted

A good romantic book is ideal to curl up with when it is down pouring outside. It can make you dream about a fairy tale environment; as these genre of books suggest, contemporary life also provides you with the chance to have a fairy tale of your own.

One Cornish Summer

The protagonist of the novel is a 50-something woman called Hebe who makes a journey to Cornwall after she begins to forget things; Hebe’s niece, Lucy, shadows her to the location but Lucy has a different train of thought from her aunt. It is an intriguing contrast: Hebe is trying to grapple with the idea of what her new reality will do to both her professional life and her love life, whilst Lucy has something to hide.

Child on the Doorstep

The protagonist of the romantic novel is called Angela McClusky who is a widow with a young daughter. She had another child in the past, who was born out of abuse whilst McClusky was still in a married state and was tragically abandoned by her at a workhouse. Angela also has a suitor called Eddie and it appears that her life might take a turn for the better after ten long years but the circumstance soon changes and Angela can no longer run away from times past.

A Perfect Husband

The romantic novel is about a couple whose marriage is suddenly on the rocks: Lily fell in love again with a man called Freddy, even though her first husband had passed away. But Freddy does not turn out to be the perfect man at all because he has incurred big debts owing to gambling; what makes the tale intriguing is that despite this idea that Lily’s life could also be in danger because of what Freddy has done, she can’t seem to makeup her mind over saying goodbye to her second husband.

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Top 3 Types Of Bad Girlfriends

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A rotten girlfriend is always the reason why a romance fails for a great man

What makes a bad girlfriend? It is always a woman’s character and the desire to never alter any aspect of it, even when she is really fortunate to get a great man in her life. There are instances in life when a woman must accept that she must change to get where she romantically wants to in her life by valuing this idea that aside from maybe a dear friend, her boyfriend is also somebody worth being an understanding person with. My picks for the top three types of horrible girlfriends:

  1. A clingy woman: A clingy girlfriend is probably the worst type of girlfriend there can be. Such a woman is interested in doing nothing else, except for always wanting to be around her boyfriend and never respecting that side of a man’s nature which always makes him maintain some distance in a romantic relationship – that is a really healthy outlook to have as a person so there can never be any arguments over who is wrong in the picture here.
  2. A woman who does not enjoy sex: Men attach a certain level of priority to sex in a relationship. So, to actually have a man date a woman who is not understanding of that basic need (of a man) isn’t a great idea. It is just sex, it is not like the woman is being asked to try out a dish called ‘baked spicy potatoes with creamy strawberry icing’; all she really needs to do is compromise a little bit because there is seriously nothing wrong in enjoying sex a healthy amount.
  3. A woman who lies all the time: A little white lie never hurts anybody but a total turnoff in a romantic relationship is a woman who lies constantly regarding her looks, her friends and so on, to this really amazing man she is dating. As a man, the best way to tackle such a woman is to break up the moment you find that out about her because the main reason why she habitually lies is perhaps because there wasn’t any other way that she could date a great man.

Sex When You’re Busy and Young

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When your calendar is filled with dates reserved for having fun with your many friends, birthday parties of your friends’ young children, and precious ‘me time’, it’s really tough to be in the mood to make room for sex with a romantic partner

It’s hard to find time for sex when you are in your thirties because there is so much to do, from going out on the grocery run to completing that project by the deadline (yet again). In these times, cultivating a romantic relationship is hard enough, let alone, finding time for sex but there are still foolproof ways to do it all: having sex might seem like a routine after a point in time, especially if that sex involves with the same (romantic) partner but if it’s your favourite routine, then that makes it a lot easier to look forward to it, when you have other things going on in your life, that is constantly inviting your attention a lot more.

Sex should also be something to enjoy: ideas range from sex in a public restroom or an empty movie theater, when you are in the mood to do something naughty, but everything doesn’t always have to be something so risky because being non-risky doesn’t automatically equals to something boring – taking a trip together can spice things up in the relationship (for sex too) because new places create different experiences.

Another drawback to being a young busy couple, is the thought of pregnancy and how now having sex isn’t simple anymore – most women can have sex before their delivery date, but if you work with your partner on this, the problem should still get resolved over which ideas are the best to choose when you are both having a baby. What’s even more challenging, in my opinion, is to have sex after a baby is born: sneaking in time for sex inbetween daily activities, having sex when your kid is with your parents, or when a babysitter is looking after your child, are good options.

Me time is the only time of the day, I wish I had more of, because it gives me the opportunity to just relax with a good book or a great movie. I would hate it if I had to give up a portion of this to spend time with a boyfriend because friends don’t have that expectation of you but sometimes you have to choose: do a trip to the movies by yourself, every once in a while and keep the other dates on your calendar, which were chalked as moments to enjoy a movie at home, as ‘sex nights’, instead – the change in the routine might even invigorate you and your romantic relationship.

Seven Date Ideas For Valentine’s Day

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The 14th of February should always be a date to remember

Valentine’s Day is almost here. In fact, it’s only a week away. I don’t have anything planned for this big romantic day – and most certainly, got nothing on my mind that involves plenty of romance. I think for me the ideal activity to be indulging on Valentine’s Day would be to just grab my best mate and make him sit with me at the cinema. I know it’s not the wildest idea and there is no dinner involved at the movies, unless scrumptious hot dogs count, but La La Land is playing and it’s better than staying inside in my PJs and doing nothing at all. But if I had to get romantic, these date ideas would be ideal. Not only are they seasonal, they are also like a real life fairy tale and perfect.

A cold sleigh ride

Sleigh rides always remind me of Christmas. But because it is winter, they can also double up as a romantic idea – you should try it out atop snowy hills because the thrill (and beauty of the scenery combined) will make for an amazing experience.

Go to the ballet

Ballet is so romantically creative. Just to watch dancers on stage in their costumes perform to beautifully orchestrated sounds and a neat script is a treat in itself but it’s always great when you have your partner to share those moments with.

Shop for groceries from the farmer’s market

Seasonal vegetables, such as lettuce and onions can be scouted for from your local farmer’s market. This is one shopping experience that can actually be paired with your date, but make it a day-effort – the fresh veg that the two of you will pick out also needs to make up your impromptu dinner date.

Play a game

Board games and solitaire are two of my favourite ways to waste time. A game night sounds like the perfect idea because for a change you get to be one of the boys, with your guy – for your boyfriend, it would be just like a game night with the boys, except there are no requests for seriously annoying time outs from him or the whole ‘his boys, but they aren’t your guys’ all because you don’t find gambling as fun as a pretty dress, cheesy pizza and gabbing.

Snuggle with a scary book or a scary film

This is a good idea because just remembering The Shining scares me, which is why reading horror novels such as those are best kept when you have your boyfriend for company – like on the night of Valentine’s Day.

Ice skating

Right, this date might really be for people who can skate but don’t be put off by that: just make sure whilst skating like a pro (for the first time) that you only fall in the snow, when your boyfriend is not looking.

Throw snow balls at each other

I would never promise myself that I wouldn’t get carried away throwing snowballs at my date, on a date – just the thought of him laughing because he thinks I look like a kid in my jumbo woolly coat makes me want to rapidly throw bigger and bigger snowballs at him to win it and turn his smile upside down. But the flip side of this date is that it is also very cute, really fun and so cheap.

How To Spot A Cheater

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It is the most awful feeling in the world: getting cheated upon. But perhaps nothing can cushion the blow that comes from the excuses that a cheater will give you when discovered. Here’s how to spot some of the most common ones:

  • He never meant to hurt you.
  • Monogamy doesn’t come towards men.
  • He loved you very deeply when he finally slept with her, last night.
  • He doesn’t do clingy for too long.
  • You did not meet his needs.
  • He needed closure from what he thought was a relationship on the verge of a breakup.
  • He wants to get back together but you will never forgive him.

How To Deal With Divorce…

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Was your former lover, really something more than a bad romantic choice?

Divorce or separation from your loved one can be one of the biggest challenges that women face today. It is tough for young women to let go of their romantic entanglements. As a sex, they prioritize the idea of marriages, of children so when they find the ideal guy because of whatever sensible reason, separation hits them harder than it does many men because they can see that some of their longstanding dreams will never come true.

But as an individual, it is a good idea to absorb these ‘new realities’ in your life. Except, just how exactly? Divorce rates are significantly falling from the national average (USA!) of slightly higher than 45percent but this doesn’t mean that the challenges to making a relationship work has faded away into nothingness in the 21st Century – the change isn’t that much from the ‘90s.

When you are divorced, one of your first tasks should be to give less of a damn about your former man. It is so easy to say you will never get over him, will still be curious about him but why should you put in that much effort for a has-been? If you have children then focus on those positives in your life because that is one dream you have accomplished and it is also someone you can always count on, unlike a man.

If your children are driving you crazy, then spend time away from them, like on a closeby spa visit and indulge in some fine-luxury treatment for yourself, such as a Swedish massage. When healed, look for another partner – someone you have more in common with, than your previous lover. Don’t be scared! This time you are better prepared!

If during the healing period you have bad thoughts for your former boyfriend, it’s best not to dwell in them because who knows how affected he is or is not by the breakup? The easiest solution is to wallow in self-pity…or watch How To Make An American Quilt, with dark chocolates.

‘The Talks’ Every Couple Should Have

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I read this fiction piece in The New York Times, today – it was a story about open relationships and how that worked out for the couple. The mindgames, the ‘butterflies in your stomach’ aside, the relationship seemed casual, amicable and experimental – the only thing that stood in its way was one partner’s larger-than-life dreams of being the best philosopher of his generation and a woman who wanted to have him, at any cost.

The price tag of that open relationship ended up costing her more than she had bargained for – jealousy soon brewed, piloted by a suspicious nonchalant attitude to your lover’s coming-ins-and-going-outs with men you have never met, and it didn’t take the pair to become estranged. Although, the author found a happily ever after in a typical American Dream fashion, it got me thinking about the crucial topics that pairs often put off talking about that really belong out in the open, than within yourself. Try, with all your might to avoid these pitfalls of every relationship!

Money

The top causes for arguments for lovers is money. Financial compatibility is crucial for long-term relationships: you should discuss about money, salaries, raises, savings, debt, joint bank accounts, and help each other reach and attain financial security, ask each other to advise on finances and tips on how to save up more.

Living Together

Talk about living together: for it or against it? Simply talking about it more helps you to have a strong relationship, a stronger marriage on the cards, on the future. Don’t be put-off from the idea just because it gives so many men cold feet – set the tone at first and gauge the situation before you pounce with ‘the talk’. If your guy is still cautious but laidback in the relationship, then ask him what he feels about living together because you have been thinking an awful lot about it lately. If he is too emotional, then don’t beat around the bush with the thought: simply blurt out how much living together with him would be such a great idea.

The Sex

Regular sex is good for a relationship. You do not have to be wild like when you were young and busy sowing all your oats, in separate farms, but do think about if sex is still as good as it was, when you originally started going out. Talk about sex, talk about moves, talk about your favourite hot and romantic scenes in films, such as The Notebook and see if you both agree with each other, with time, on all matters sex.

Babies

Becoming a mother or a father takes a lot of talks because it is a serious decision. You should talk about where he stands on ‘the babies debate’ before you dive into a serious relationship. If you have always  wanted kids, and he didn’t, it is unlikely he will change himself for you. Don’t be unrealistic – a practical head will save you from years of sorrow, sprung from incompatibility, that fast-romances don’t always point out to you. As you grow in your relationship, also grow your talks on becoming a parent – also, say it upfront, don’t hide it!

Getting Married

Most men do not just pop the question, just like that, which is why couples should opt to talk about where they stand on the topic of marriage. They should discuss if marriage is on the cards – now, in the near future, in the far future, or never? When you do, be causal about the subject: make it look like you do, when you are talking about which pizza to order – pepperoni or the one that has cut-up sausages, smoked bacon and ham all over it?