Summer Dates

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Five great summer date ideas

Going on a date in the summer means making the most of the unrelenting heat. It also means creating romantic memories which will last a lifetime and experiences which you will want to repeat next summer.

Eat ice cream together
Go to an ice cream shop over the weekend to have a romantic experience; just order your favorite flavor of ice cream, like tutti frutti and catch up with each other about how both of your weeks been.

Go on a picnic
For a picnic for two, prepare a small picnic bag with the essentials – a few sandwiches, paper plates and books to read together and just head to a nearby park to have a very relaxing date.

Go shopping together at the farmers’ market
The farmers’ market should be filled with fresh summer produce, such as apricots, blackberries and mangoes. Go out on a shopping date to the market and share with each other how much you know about these fruits and what to do with them once you get back home.

Have a barbecue
Talk to your significant other about hosting a barbecue and then invite your friends over to it. Cook some summer recipes, like grilled vegetables together, and just chat with your friends about your future plans together as a couple.

Go to a botanical garden
If you both have a mutual interest in plants, then going on a date to the botanical garden is a great idea because the place is filled with flowers, plants and trees which are in full bloom during the summer; the date will both offer the opportunity to explore and enjoy these various types of plant life together.


Dating Life + A Mother

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How to talk to your mother about your dating life

It can seem challenging to talk to your mother about your dating life if she already does not get you on most days. An example of this type of scenario where your mother is not being understanding: let’s say, you like a boy and months have passed but you’re still waiting to find out if he likes you back or not and you have told your mother that; three months after that conversation, your mother suggests you try your luck with some other boy because she is fed up of seeing you wait around – a suggestion of that sort instantly makes you feel angry and upset because you are still hung up on this boy and quite confident that he will like you back soon.

But challenge or not, I don’t think a mother will ever appreciate not being in the know about her child’s dating life. In my outlook, acting smart around the subject is necessary, so only share what you absolutely have to with your mother and keep all the other tiny developments in your dating life to yourself until something big materializes. Examples of what you should talk to your mother about: there is a boy you like, whether or not you want to get married in the near future, what your new boyfriend is like, plus how many dates you have been out on in the past couple of months and if you have found a boy yet.

Not sharing every little detail about your dating life with your mother does not mean that you are hiding something from her. It just shows that you are an independent young woman, who can make all romantic decisions by herself just great, plus also there should really be a certain level of development in that part of your life before you jump in and very confidently share something with your mother so that she really gets you and the sharing leaves you completely content with how the conversation went.

Top 3 Types Of Bad Girlfriends

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A rotten girlfriend is always the reason why a romance fails for a great man

What makes a bad girlfriend? It is always a woman’s character and the desire to never alter any aspect of it, even when she is really fortunate to get a great man in her life. There are instances in life when a woman must accept that she must change to get where she romantically wants to in her life by valuing this idea that aside from maybe a dear friend, her boyfriend is also somebody worth being an understanding person with. My picks for the top three types of horrible girlfriends:

  1. A clingy woman: A clingy girlfriend is probably the worst type of girlfriend there can be. Such a woman is interested in doing nothing else, except for always wanting to be around her boyfriend and never respecting that side of a man’s nature which always makes him maintain some distance in a romantic relationship – that is a really healthy outlook to have as a person so there can never be any arguments over who is wrong in the picture here.
  2. A woman who does not enjoy sex: Men attach a certain level of priority to sex in a relationship. So, to actually have a man date a woman who is not understanding of that basic need (of a man) isn’t a great idea. It is just sex, it is not like the woman is being asked to try out a dish called ‘baked spicy potatoes with creamy strawberry icing’; all she really needs to do is compromise a little bit because there is seriously nothing wrong in enjoying sex a healthy amount.
  3. A woman who lies all the time: A little white lie never hurts anybody but a total turnoff in a romantic relationship is a woman who lies constantly regarding her looks, her friends and so on, to this really amazing man she is dating. As a man, the best way to tackle such a woman is to break up the moment you find that out about her because the main reason why she habitually lies is perhaps because there wasn’t any other way that she could date a great man.

Sex When You’re Busy and Young

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When your calendar is filled with dates reserved for having fun with your many friends, birthday parties of your friends’ young children, and precious ‘me time’, it’s really tough to be in the mood to make room for sex with a romantic partner

It’s hard to find time for sex when you are in your thirties because there is so much to do, from going out on the grocery run to completing that project by the deadline (yet again). In these times, cultivating a romantic relationship is hard enough, let alone, finding time for sex but there are still foolproof ways to do it all: having sex might seem like a routine after a point in time, especially if that sex involves with the same (romantic) partner but if it’s your favourite routine, then that makes it a lot easier to look forward to it, when you have other things going on in your life, that is constantly inviting your attention a lot more.

Sex should also be something to enjoy: ideas range from sex in a public restroom or an empty movie theater, when you are in the mood to do something naughty, but everything doesn’t always have to be something so risky because being non-risky doesn’t automatically equals to something boring – taking a trip together can spice things up in the relationship (for sex too) because new places create different experiences.

Another drawback to being a young busy couple, is the thought of pregnancy and how now having sex isn’t simple anymore – most women can have sex before their delivery date, but if you work with your partner on this, the problem should still get resolved over which ideas are the best to choose when you are both having a baby. What’s even more challenging, in my opinion, is to have sex after a baby is born: sneaking in time for sex inbetween daily activities, having sex when your kid is with your parents, or when a babysitter is looking after your child, are good options.

Me time is the only time of the day, I wish I had more of, because it gives me the opportunity to just relax with a good book or a great movie. I would hate it if I had to give up a portion of this to spend time with a boyfriend because friends don’t have that expectation of you but sometimes you have to choose: do a trip to the movies by yourself, every once in a while and keep the other dates on your calendar, which were chalked as moments to enjoy a movie at home, as ‘sex nights’, instead – the change in the routine might even invigorate you and your romantic relationship.

Seven Date Ideas For Valentine’s Day

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The 14th of February should always be a date to remember

Valentine’s Day is almost here. In fact, it’s only a week away. I don’t have anything planned for this big romantic day – and most certainly, got nothing on my mind that involves plenty of romance. I think for me the ideal activity to be indulging on Valentine’s Day would be to just grab my best mate and make him sit with me at the cinema. I know it’s not the wildest idea and there is no dinner involved at the movies, unless scrumptious hot dogs count, but La La Land is playing and it’s better than staying inside in my PJs and doing nothing at all. But if I had to get romantic, these date ideas would be ideal. Not only are they seasonal, they are also like a real life fairy tale and perfect.

A cold sleigh ride

Sleigh rides always remind me of Christmas. But because it is winter, they can also double up as a romantic idea – you should try it out atop snowy hills because the thrill (and beauty of the scenery combined) will make for an amazing experience.

Go to the ballet

Ballet is so romantically creative. Just to watch dancers on stage in their costumes perform to beautifully orchestrated sounds and a neat script is a treat in itself but it’s always great when you have your partner to share those moments with.

Shop for groceries from the farmer’s market

Seasonal vegetables, such as lettuce and onions can be scouted for from your local farmer’s market. This is one shopping experience that can actually be paired with your date, but make it a day-effort – the fresh veg that the two of you will pick out also needs to make up your impromptu dinner date.

Play a game

Board games and solitaire are two of my favourite ways to waste time. A game night sounds like the perfect idea because for a change you get to be one of the boys, with your guy – for your boyfriend, it would be just like a game night with the boys, except there are no requests for seriously annoying time outs from him or the whole ‘his boys, but they aren’t your guys’ all because you don’t find gambling as fun as a pretty dress, cheesy pizza and gabbing.

Snuggle with a scary book or a scary film

This is a good idea because just remembering The Shining scares me, which is why reading horror novels such as those are best kept when you have your boyfriend for company – like on the night of Valentine’s Day.

Ice skating

Right, this date might really be for people who can skate but don’t be put off by that: just make sure whilst skating like a pro (for the first time) that you only fall in the snow, when your boyfriend is not looking.

Throw snow balls at each other

I would never promise myself that I wouldn’t get carried away throwing snowballs at my date, on a date – just the thought of him laughing because he thinks I look like a kid in my jumbo woolly coat makes me want to rapidly throw bigger and bigger snowballs at him to win it and turn his smile upside down. But the flip side of this date is that it is also very cute, really fun and so cheap.

Why Do Marriages Fail?

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Men and women are from two different planets, they say. One is from Mars, whilst the other is from Venus. As a result, no matter how progressive or advanced of a girl you are, chances are that you are still so different from your partner. You eat a different way, communicate a different way, and even shop a different way. Women are often so shaken up over their past relationships that they find it hard to move on from the experiences. It’s not so much the lingering feelings, which undoubtedly time can heal, as it is the cheating, the betrayal, the insensitive attitude towards leaving her.

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They often find that upon breaking up, those men immediately began dating another woman. This woman does not seem concerned in the slightest that he left his previous girlfriend after 10 years, all suddenly because he no longer felt the same way about her. The truth is that the relationship was probably fraught with problems: drug addiction, uncontrollable rage, too much interest in sex, constant wandering eye and having to live with the fear if he will ever take the plunge there (he is a reformed bad boy, for you, he says so, you think so too, but for how long?), too much emotional baggage (can’t deal with his wife remarrying, even though they divorced 15 years ago), hyper-sensitivity, too much jealousy, there is a limit to how much a person can tolerate, both man or woman.

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But because they do not talk over it, or even if they do there is a basic gap in that communication, women misunderstand why that marriage broke up. So, that relationship has been ending for a really long time, you just ended up missing the warning signals. A holiday with the family, business trips he took to Chicago, lack of intimacy for a continued period of time, his regular working late pattern (what is always keeping him THAT busy?). Don’t be afraid to talk about matters, voice your opinion, because otherwise your relationship will end. In America, from the 1970s onwards, marriages have been failing by-large: somewhere around 40percent of women leave their marriages. Not to go into families, where a secular attitude let’s a partner’s perspective towards monogamy slide, often, in favour of a clear and present marriage, but sexual infidelity is a big game-changer for many married women.

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It is the single most common source of divorce, despite partners taking vows everyday that expect them to remain faithful to each other. Cohabiting couples have a greater chance of breaking up than married couples, and they also have nothing to call back their faith in a relationship, because they never took vows. Women nowadays want divorces more than men do, because they can afford it. As society progresses, women no longer need to be tied to an unfaithful relationship because there’s been a complete overhaul of how things work for women now in their lives.

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Women want separate things from a relationship, and it is most certainly more than just babies, a home or a fast car. A revolution in our society has already made it simple to have all of these for a woman by themselves, and they no longer need a man to provide it to them. They want intimacy, romance; they want to connect with their partners on a level deeper than sexual, and this for both homemakers and working women. Reasons for divorce vary from one woman to other – it can go from “emotional abuse” to “unresponsive to needs”. You have to let go of a partner that is no longer there for you because only then can you start something excitingly new. Make sure you have recovered your sense of place once more, first though. When dating the wrong guy or even the right guy in the initial stages, many women lose sight of themselves, and this is a big mistake they make because the guy will eventually lose interest in all the “put on” behaviour when he cannot locate the real you, he wanted to date in the first place.