When your calendar is filled with dates reserved for having fun with your many friends, birthday parties of your friends’ young children, and precious ‘me time’, it’s really tough to be in the mood to make room for sex with a romantic partner
It’s hard to find time for sex when you are in your thirties because there is so much to do, from going out on the grocery run to completing that project by the deadline (yet again). In these times, cultivating a romantic relationship is hard enough, let alone, finding time for sex but there are still foolproof ways to do it all: having sex might seem like a routine after a point in time, especially if that sex involves with the same (romantic) partner but if it’s your favourite routine, then that makes it a lot easier to look forward to it, when you have other things going on in your life, that is constantly inviting your attention a lot more.
Sex should also be something to enjoy: ideas range from sex in a public restroom or an empty movie theater, when you are in the mood to do something naughty, but everything doesn’t always have to be something so risky because being non-risky doesn’t automatically equals to something boring – taking a trip together can spice things up in the relationship (for sex too) because new places create different experiences.
Another drawback to being a young busy couple, is the thought of pregnancy and how now having sex isn’t simple anymore – most women can have sex before their delivery date, but if you work with your partner on this, the problem should still get resolved over which ideas are the best to choose when you are both having a baby. What’s even more challenging, in my opinion, is to have sex after a baby is born: sneaking in time for sex inbetween daily activities, having sex when your kid is with your parents, or when a babysitter is looking after your child, are good options.
Me time is the only time of the day, I wish I had more of, because it gives me the opportunity to just relax with a good book or a great movie. I would hate it if I had to give up a portion of this to spend time with a boyfriend because friends don’t have that expectation of you but sometimes you have to choose: do a trip to the movies by yourself, every once in a while and keep the other dates on your calendar, which were chalked as moments to enjoy a movie at home, as ‘sex nights’, instead – the change in the routine might even invigorate you and your romantic relationship.